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Free Checklist
Is This Shame
or Is This You?
Sometimes what feels like a personality flaw is actually shame speaking. This checklist helps you tell the difference.
There's a feeling some of us have carried for so long we stopped calling it a feeling.
We just called it ourselves.
The sense of being too much and not enough at the same time. Of having to earn our place in every room. Of monitoring everyone's mood and adjusting ourselves accordingly — constantly, automatically, without even noticing we're doing it.
I used to think that was just my personality. My anxiety. The way I was built.
It wasn't.
And shame that is named begins to lose its grip."
This checklist was built for anyone who has ever wondered whether what they're carrying belongs to them — or whether it formed somewhere much earlier, without their permission.
It takes a few minutes. It costs nothing. And it might be the most honest conversation you've had with yourself in a while.
What's inside the free checklist
- 19 statements across three areas — when something goes wrong, around other people, and in quiet moments
- A reflection question that helps you see whether you're viewing yourself through the lens of shame
- A gentle reframe for three of the most common shame thoughts — including "What is wrong with me?" and "I am too much"
- A journal prompt to take it deeper
- A closing thought on the difference between what shame says and what is actually true
- Yours to save, screenshot, or print — free to keep
You don't need to have anything figured out to use this. You just need to be willing to look — gently, honestly, with a little kindness toward yourself.
Enter your name and email below and I'll send it straight to your inbox.
And that's just the beginning
When you sign up, I'll also send you two more free resources over the following days.
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Day 2 The Shame Cycle Map A clear visual map of the loop shame pulls us into — and where the exits are. |
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Day 3 The Shame Interrupt — A Pocket Practice A simple grounded practice for when shame activates in real life. Save it to your phone. |
All free. All yours. No catch. 🪷
Yes, I want the free checklist
Send me the checklist — and help me begin to understand what I've been carrying.
Free. No spam. Just gentle, honest content from someone who has walked this path.
You learned it — in a place where you should have learned the opposite.
That belief is not the truth about who you are.
And it was never yours to carry."
With love and presence,
Trish 🪷
Softening Fear · Befriending Your Nervous System · Returning To Yourself